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Updated on May 23rd, 2020

Mid Life Travel Stories & Inspiration For Women Going It Alone

Are you over 40? Considering travelling solo, maybe for the first time? Then you have come to the right place. I have almost 30 years of independent travel experience, visiting over 70 countries, many of them alone. I know I am not the only woman who is 40+ and facing a big shift in her life. This website is for all of those amazing women who are dealing with a loss of any kind; divorce or separation, kids growing up & moving away, losing a loved one or just having different priorities from them. I want to help you to have the confidence to take those first tentative steps into solo travel. Believe me when I say, once you take the plunge you will wonder why you never did it sooner!

Take a look at my map so far!


I have recently had a huge shift in my life circumstances (see below if you want to know more).  This, fuelled by determination & a need for distraction, has made me reconnect with the joys of solo travel again.

For whatever reason, we all find there are places we want to go, stuff we want to do & not always someone to go with. You also may not quite have the confidence to do it alone yet. I’m here to come up with ideas & share experience on how we can all go solo, but not necessarily be alone. Whether you’re a seasoned solo traveller or someone who needs to build up to it, I hope you find something here that will interest you & keep coming back to share my journey.

What will you find here?

Travelling solo over 40

Loads of practical advice and tips. Why not Subscribe to get my 40-page e-book with everything that you need to know before you first take your first solo trip?


Plenty of ideas for what to do and where to go if you don’t want to be alone. Or my top tips on where to go & how do it if you do!

Guides & Itineraries

Practical first timer’s guides, best things to do in many worldwide locations & insider’s guides from friends who know somewhere really well.


How you can enhance your experience by immersing yourself in everything travel has to offer. Have you considered learning a skill, developing your fitness, offering your expertise with volunteering & loads more other ideas?

Travel stories

Fun collections of my mishaps & scrapes along the journey.


Want to know more about my story?

“Not all who wander are lost”

– J.R.R. Tolkien

I have always had a passion for travel. I started with Africa at a very naïve 22 (much to the despair of my poor terrified mother!). Currently, I have visited over 70 countries & seen some of the world’s most amazing sights.

Travelling solo has given me some of my greatest travel experiences and enabled me to make friends across the world. It has made me feel strong, independent and inspired.

“Everybody has a plan until they get punched in the face”

– Mike Tyson

I thought I had life sussed with a great job, an amazing husband & the financial security to go wherever I wanted, when I wanted to go there. Then life punched me in the face.

SueWhereWhyWhat and Husband TerryA few days before Christmas in 2014, after 18 years together, I lost my husband Terry. He was the love of my life, my best friend, my rock & my partner in crime. He went in for heart surgery & never made it back to me. Imagine everything you know about your life & expect will happen in your future gone, overnight.

I spent my first 12 months in a shock, saying “Yes” to all invitations. I followed friends & family to exotic destinations which was the only way I knew to cope. Travel gave me the opportunity to get to know myself again & start to discover who I am now I am back on my own.  To read more about this journey see my Postcards From Tragedy To Hope.

“I haven’t been everywhere yet, but it’s on my list”

Susan Sontag

I took redundancy from my job of 18 years as I started to work out what life would offer me next. It was time to refocus & I wrote a list of all the things I wanted to do & destinations I wanted to visit. I call it my Life List. Somehow the idea of a Bucket List of “things to do before you die” is a little too close to home for me. Since then, I have been working my way through my list. The adventures I’ve had along the way have helped me heal & grieve to the point where I finally feel I can smile again & mean it.

The conclusion of where I take my life now is this website.

Sue Where? Why? What?

I am determined to continue to make travel a focus for my life. I also want to help inspire other women to grab life by the balls & do the same, no matter what your reason is to choose to adventure solo. Travelling alone after the tragedy of losing my husband has allowed me not to be defined by my circumstances and made me believe I can do anything.

The world is out there to be experienced & there are lots of adventures to be had. I hope you choose to join me on some of mine & get inspired along the way.

What more can I say? Do it. Go. You will learn more about yourself & grow in ways you never thought possible.

“What if I fall? Oh, but my darling, what if you fly?”

– Erin Hanson

What else you do need to know?

It is important to say that all my trips are self-funded & I have not been sponsored or received benefits based on where I have been or what I have written. You can trust these are purely my opinions on the experiences. I hope you find my comments useful but if you disagree with anything please let me know!
If you’d like to know more drop me a message



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