Fire, Ice and Demons!
Last week my demons came knocking. It was emotional. My partner, Larry has been suffering from excruciating sciatic (back) pain from long before we met and after trying everything, went in for surgery on Monday.
Last week my demons came knocking. It was emotional. My partner, Larry has been suffering from excruciating sciatic (back) pain from long before we met and after trying everything, went in for surgery on Monday.
Picture the scene. It’s 1992. I am a slightly naïve and shambolic 22-year-old British girl with huge travel ambitions. I had been working two jobs to gather the money for a “big trip” but had no idea where to, until I wandered into a travel agent who asked if I wanted to speak with their Africa expert.
So, last weekend I was in Northern Ireland catching up with friends who I first met 36 years ago. We haven’t been together for a decade, but the years melted away as soon as we saw each other, like it was 10 days, not years!
This week I am off to Northern Ireland for a reunion with some very old friends. Not in terms of age (she says, playing hers down! 😉), but we met in the first week of university back in 1987 and have seen many marriages, births and unfortunately a few deaths throughout the group since. Needless to say, we have a lot of catching up to do!
I’ve spent the last few weeks busying myself away writing the course I’ve been talking about for ages. Months. Maybe even (embarrassingly) years!
A few weeks ago, I wrote about how travel can change your life (if you missed it, hit reply and I’ll send it again). From broadening your perspective to enhancing your self-confidence and creativity. But the change can only be achieved by engaging in purposeful, mindful, and immersive travel experiences. By setting clear intentions, you can achieve personal growth and create lasting, positive changes in your life.
Did you miss me? Last week I took a break from your Inbox, as I was away in Madeira. I usually make sure I continue to send my weekly email, no matter where I am, so this was quite a big thing for me. But before I explain why, if you haven’t been, let me tell you a little about Madeira.
Apologies for the lack of ceremony but last week I changed my weekly email day. From now on you can expect to hear from me on a Tuesday instead of a Monday.
Back in 2018, my neighbours came to me with a question. It began with:
“You know how you’re never here…?”
When was the last time you stepped out of your comfort zone? Did you dive in? Or just dance around the edge?

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